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Just seeing a few of the kink memes around ...
Me and Kinks
I've been seeing a few kink memes and the like around, and while they intigue me and sometimes I'd feel like participating, there's just ...
Okay. I am asexual, and of the kind that would tend to be fairly weirded out by the actually mechanics of the act, yes? But I do have a few of what I think would probably be called kinks, except they're not really at all related to, you know, sex. Not for me, anyway. They don't go to that place internally. But they do ... I mean, some things do trigger an appreciable emotional response, you know?
I love the willing surrender of control out of trust, for example, which I'm fairly positive comes under the heading of bdsm. I love the emotional ramifications of it, and exploring the effects it has on both parties, and the relationships that can come out of it. I love it for what it signifies, the depth of connection and trust, not because it gets me excited. Like that?
I love lengthy explorations of physical forms, of bodies. To the point where I'd happily read about someone getting a can of paint and a brush, and just following the lines of their partner's form, tracing out the contours until they looked like something out of Tron. Not because it's going to go anywhere, but because bodies are beautiful, and to be allowed to touch and learn and understand someone else's on that level seems wonderful to me. Which ... may be less a kink and more an exercise in mild insanity on my part, I am aware of that ...
I love kissing as a visible expression of intimacy. I love the touching of someone's face with hands, which isn't allowed normally unless they've got food smeared on their cheeks, and probably not even then, because it is an undeniably intimate act. Actually, I love all the little public touches that seem only to be allowed if you're in a sexual relationship, the display of connection and closeness it allows.
What I don't really like, what I would be ... very weirded out by, and mildly uncomfortable with ... would be the more graphic end of things, the kinks explicitly to do with the sexual act. Including dirty talk, which ... largely makes me blush and skip past, to be honest. *flushes slightly* Even reading, I'd tend to do a lot of skipping and a lot of blushing, though sometimes it's worth it, very worth it, for the emotional connections. I just ... seem to understand sex as an emotional act rather than a physical one, which ... probably makes me a terrible tease, I know.
I suppose I have a pretty low tolerance for someone venturing out into the wilds of fandom, and especially the kink memes. It's just ... some of them I do appreciate, if probably not in the spirit they were intended, and I'd browse through in the hopes of finding something that speaks to me on that level, very definitely.
I just ... don't usually actually participate. If only because it seems a bit crass to go through a meme that seems aimed very prominently at sex, that people seem to greatly enjoy for that reason, and ask could I have the kink without the act, or at least graphic descriptions of the act, if at all possible? A bit like going to a chef's party, and asking them to chop out half their ingredients just for my plate. *grins sheepishly* Not to mention when it's my turn to write, and trying to explain why I'm leaving out half those ingredients for someone else's plate, when they wanted the full meal, thanks. Heh.
I don't know why I'm even explaining this. Just ... seeing them around, I guess. Made me think about it some. *shrugs sheepishly*
I've been seeing a few kink memes and the like around, and while they intigue me and sometimes I'd feel like participating, there's just ...
Okay. I am asexual, and of the kind that would tend to be fairly weirded out by the actually mechanics of the act, yes? But I do have a few of what I think would probably be called kinks, except they're not really at all related to, you know, sex. Not for me, anyway. They don't go to that place internally. But they do ... I mean, some things do trigger an appreciable emotional response, you know?
I love the willing surrender of control out of trust, for example, which I'm fairly positive comes under the heading of bdsm. I love the emotional ramifications of it, and exploring the effects it has on both parties, and the relationships that can come out of it. I love it for what it signifies, the depth of connection and trust, not because it gets me excited. Like that?
I love lengthy explorations of physical forms, of bodies. To the point where I'd happily read about someone getting a can of paint and a brush, and just following the lines of their partner's form, tracing out the contours until they looked like something out of Tron. Not because it's going to go anywhere, but because bodies are beautiful, and to be allowed to touch and learn and understand someone else's on that level seems wonderful to me. Which ... may be less a kink and more an exercise in mild insanity on my part, I am aware of that ...
I love kissing as a visible expression of intimacy. I love the touching of someone's face with hands, which isn't allowed normally unless they've got food smeared on their cheeks, and probably not even then, because it is an undeniably intimate act. Actually, I love all the little public touches that seem only to be allowed if you're in a sexual relationship, the display of connection and closeness it allows.
What I don't really like, what I would be ... very weirded out by, and mildly uncomfortable with ... would be the more graphic end of things, the kinks explicitly to do with the sexual act. Including dirty talk, which ... largely makes me blush and skip past, to be honest. *flushes slightly* Even reading, I'd tend to do a lot of skipping and a lot of blushing, though sometimes it's worth it, very worth it, for the emotional connections. I just ... seem to understand sex as an emotional act rather than a physical one, which ... probably makes me a terrible tease, I know.
I suppose I have a pretty low tolerance for someone venturing out into the wilds of fandom, and especially the kink memes. It's just ... some of them I do appreciate, if probably not in the spirit they were intended, and I'd browse through in the hopes of finding something that speaks to me on that level, very definitely.
I just ... don't usually actually participate. If only because it seems a bit crass to go through a meme that seems aimed very prominently at sex, that people seem to greatly enjoy for that reason, and ask could I have the kink without the act, or at least graphic descriptions of the act, if at all possible? A bit like going to a chef's party, and asking them to chop out half their ingredients just for my plate. *grins sheepishly* Not to mention when it's my turn to write, and trying to explain why I'm leaving out half those ingredients for someone else's plate, when they wanted the full meal, thanks. Heh.
I don't know why I'm even explaining this. Just ... seeing them around, I guess. Made me think about it some. *shrugs sheepishly*
